I took this picture about a decade ago. The small boys featured are now adults in their early 20s. It is amazing how time flies so quickly and if I hadn’t taken this picture, I would have forgotten how much I loved watching the children grow up. The picture was taken during a party organised by my late mother, and the boys are the children of my brother-in-law’s sister.
Anyhow, the real reason I picked this picture to represent my topic is the seen fact of how life can be more memorable and wonderful when we willingly give each other a boost and a help, whenever the situation calls for it. In this picture, we see the boys, both laughing, one riding the plastic car and the other giving his brother the needed boost.
Children, it seems, are natural when it comes to asking for help. They don’t think much about it. But just as asking for help seems natural to them, so is rendering help. They are selfless instead of selfish. No wonder God says in the Bible that one must be childlike to enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Children have so many good traits that are important for adults to inculcate into their life — one of which is learning to ask for help.
As a lone parent, it is easy to be overwhelmed by all the challenges life throws at you. Too often, a single parent would have to play the role of caregiver and breadwinner for her family, and it is not easy. Nevertheless, hard as it may be, it is important that we know that:
- Even single parents are never alone. We may be loners, but let’s face it, we only need to open our doors to see that we are surrounded by people, including members of our own family, our friends, our neighbours, our community etc.,.
- Because of the reason above, there is no excuse to not ask for help from any of the members mentioned when you fall flat on your face.
I learnt a lot as a single parent.
One of the most important lessons I have learnt is that I need help all the time, every day, 24-hours a day.
Yet most people view me as very capable single parent and some are even wowed that I seem to have raised my three children (from toddlers to young adults), alone. What not many people know is that I have had help — a lot of it.
For example, the day I became a single parent was the day I consecrated myself and my children to God. I sought God’s help every second of my life. And when things went wrong — the children got ill and I didn’t have a cent in my purse, I lamented to God and I was shown to people who helped. Most of the time, these were the people closest to me — my mother and my brothers who lived under the same roof, and my sisters. However, at other times, help comes from people who are not related to me, and I am amazed at how much I have been blessed by just knowing when to ask for help.
Of course, at times I do have negative thoughts in my mind about asking for help, again and again. To ask for help means allowing other people the opportunity to either help us or humiliate us. I have been subjected to both treatments, but I can safely say that most people would rather help than humiliate. And those prone to humiliating are often people who have yet to live a life in poverty.
So, the lesson I am trying to impart is this: don’t be ashamed to ask for help from those around you. When one humiliates you, don’t let the negativity stay with you. Instead, ask the next person. Not everyone will be unkind. In any case, the person who humiliates will in turn have his or her opportunity to learn a lesson in humility. If they are wise, they will learn it for God is always good and wants His children to be wise and kind and humble to their fellow brethren. If they are not that wise, they are bound to have repetitions in the lessons until they learn it.
So, don’t be so sad. There is a God after all, and He looks after us whether we care to acknowledge it or not. But to be truly happy, like me, know God and love God. He will provide help when you ask humbly.